Societal Regression & the Child-Focused Society

Societal Regression & the Child-Focused Society

What Happens When Helicopter Parents
Are Hit by Boomerang Children?

“If you keep doin’ what you’ve been doin’,
you’ll keep gettin’ what you’ve been gettin’.”

Societies vary in functional levels of differentiation and amount of chronic anxiety in a manner similar to families and individuals. Emotionally reactive behaviors in a societal context follow the same attack – defend, pursue – withdraw interactions as do familial relationships. Coalitions and group conflict are analogous to fusion and cut-off.

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On Triangles

On Triangles

When does one plus one equal three?

“we can see life not so much as a series of paths to be chosen,
but as a maze of triangular shoals and reefs to be navigated around.”

— Guerin & Fogarty

Life is lived in relationship, and relationships evolve in association with, and in response to, other relationships. Two-person relationships almost never exist in isolation. Their emotional instability inevitably produces triangles, which are three-person interconnected relationship systems. And triangles, almost just as inevitably, prove unable to contain the full range of emotional reactivity, and produce interlocking triangles.

When emotional tension threatens a dyadic relationship (think marital discord, parent-child conflict, in-law distress, grandparental meddling) a third person is sought to help calm the anxiety. Bowen wrote, “A triangle in a state of calm consists of a comfortable twosome and an outsider.” Unlike a body at rest however, a triangle often does not maintain equilibrium. When sufficient pressure is placed on the structure and function of a triangle, ever expanding mazes of interlocking triangles are created.

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The Invisible Psychological Contracts We Make with Our Families

The Invisible Psychological Contracts We Make with Our Families

The Unbearable Lightness of Maintaining Individuality and Being Connected

“Whom we are related to
in the complex web of family ties
over all generations
is unalterable by us.”
— Elizabeth A. Carter and Monica McGoldrick
—-The Family Life Cycle

Decisions, decisions. Have you ever wondered about why you do what you do when you do it, where you choose to do it, and how you do it with whomever you choose to do it with? (Hopefully this doesn’t strike too many of you as coming from the department of redundancy department). Me neither. But lets just think about this for a minute. How often do we truly make decisions for ourselves based on our own core beliefs and values? I’d suggest not nearly as often as we’d like to believe we do.

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