The “Wedding Gift” Triangle

The “Wedding Gift” Triangle

“A culturally acceptable way
for a man to avoid
the pressure of a relationship with his mother
without cutting her off.”

— Philip J. Guerin, MD

June, Croon, Moon, Swoon. HELLO, young lovers, wherever you are . . . getting ready to walk down the aisle, remember that after the fantasy wedding comes the marriage. Real marriage for real people involves both partners committing “to a new family system and realignments of many, if not all previous relationships,” while maintaining responsibility for relationships in the family they grew up in.

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Marital Psychosis

Marital Psychosis

The ‘Changing the Other Person’ Fantasy
and The Mind Reading Delusion

Valentine’s Day, pink hearts, red flowers, chocolate covered truffles (not the wild fungus type), and pledges of everlasting love and devotion. And then you wake up.

Psychosis: A mental condition whereby the patient completely loses touch with reality and lives in a world of false beliefs, seeing or hearing things that aren’t there, and denying the reality in front of them. That pretty well describes most people’s unrealistic expectations of marriage right after love conquers all. Unfortunately, it doesn’t work too well.

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Whose Divorce is it Anyway?

Whose Divorce is it Anyway?

If we have her marriage and his marriage, or her marriage and her marriage, or his marriage and his marriage, then surely we must have some combination of his divorce and her divorce. No-fault divorce laws notwithstanding, if the partners were effectively unequal before and during the marriage, it would be folly to expect them to be equal at the time of and subsequent to the end of the marriage. If every marriage is two marriages, then every divorce process has multiple components, ‘hers’, ‘his’, ‘theirs’ and everybody else’s.

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Bowen Family Systems Coaching


Bowen Family Systems Coaching with Ronald B Cohen, MD is the treatment of choice for complicated relationship problems and intergenerational conflicts. Include the whole family in resolving and improving what is going on right NOW! When the entire family works to make the difficult journey together, the results are almost magical.
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Why Ronald B Cohen, MD?


If you are experiencing family relationship problems and distress, don’t treat all therapists alike. Look for a Family Therapist who has had specific training, is comfortable with emotional intensity and will offer clear direction to help resolve identified problems. Ronald B. Cohen, MD works with the whole family in a manner that can save you time and be more cost effective than equal doses of individual therapy.
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For Mental Health Professionals


I offer both individual coaching and a consultation group to help facilitate the acquisition and further development of knowledge and expertise in Bowen Family Systems Theory and Coaching for the enhancement of clinical efficacy, productivity and satisfaction. If this is something you want to do professionally, and especially if you have not had significant training and experience in working with family dynamics and relationships, then experiential learning by doing is the best way to go.
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